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“Can we live together while in treatment?” YES.
New Couples Therapy Program Offered
There is a shortage of rehabs that provide couples counseling, for addicts. One popular school of thought among addiction professionals is “you cant get sober in a relationship”. There are other opinions in the field that couples can be successful if both addicts have a recovery program of their own.Drug treatment centers that decide to accept couples into their program, must have specialized programs. The clinician who runs a couples therapy program must have extensive training in marriage counseling, and sexual modalities and issues.
Couples apartments are available, sometimes they may be full so when you call us just ask about the house.
“My husband and I called 20 different treatment programs, all we heard was no couples allowed. Finally we found your center with a specialized track for couples needing addiction treatment. Thanks to your rehab facility we are clean and sober and still married.”
We provide specific addiction treatment and individual therapy for couples in attending our rehab center. Treating the issues related to the relationship along with addiction counseling. We offer family events where the kids can come and be educated on the disease or just play and have a good time while the parents are in the program.
The first step is detox where your body will start to get back to normal. You will Not experience any withdrawal symptoms and you can basically watch movies and play video games. We have Free cigs if you are a smoker and gourmet food kitchen open 24 hours.
New Treatment Plan For couples with Substance Abuse Issues
Developed in January of 2017, We have added a new phase to our relationship therapy program. Although it is optimal for an addict to work on their own recovery, we treat both partners, while guiding them toward recovering from addiction. If one partner in a relationship blames the other for their own addiction, the relationship needs help. Sometimes one partner is physically abused and this contributes to the ongoing relapse issues. Often there is emotional abuse perpetrated by both partners in a newly sober relationship. This needs to be worked together in therapy. Sometimes family involvement creates tension and causes relapse or behavioral changes. If one partner is feeling pressure from family, this tension can cause resentment.
Sometimes one partner is dealing with mental illness including depression and anxiety. This adds more challenges for both partners trying to get clean and sober while in a relationship. Medication usually helps in controlling most mental illness problems. Substance abuse treatment professionals usually guide clients with dual diagnosis issues toward medical doctors.
We have also implemented our new EMDR treatment for clients with trauma and stress disorders. EMDR therapy can be done individually or with both partners together in a session. Clients with post traumatic stress disorder have been successfully treated with this procedure. If trauma is not dealt with, it can destroy a relationship. EMDR is conducted individually with a certified professional.
Couples Therapy Program Prevents Abuse
We have all heard that resentments cause relapse. If one partner is holding on to a resentment, chances are he is not working on it with a therapist. Learning to deal with these feelings is necessary for long term recovery. Low self esteem causes partners to become jealous and believe they are not appreciated or loved. Many times we are dealing with a “treatment romance”, meaning the clients met in a rehab center and left the facility together against medical advice. These relationships are dangerous for the addict, and need a licensed therapist to provide help . They use together and end up with multiple admissions into treatment and detox, sometimes 4 in a month.
In phase 1, which is the most intensive part of the substance abuse treatment program. You will learn about the disease of addiction and receive group therapy 5 days a week and partners counseling at least twice a week. Your primary therapist will develop an individualized treatment plan for you and goals to meet while in recovery.
In phase 2 of drug rehab for couples, you will meet as partners with the clinical staff to develop a substance abuse treatment plan for relationship recovery. You will have sessions as a couple together, as well as individual and group therapy. We offer planned events such as bowling, paint ball , ice skating, and boating. These are a good chance to start connecting with your significant other while you are both clean and sober. Getting to know your partner without the interference of drugs and alcohol will not be all roses and jewels. It will be a lot of work involved keeping a relationship that was clouded by substance abuse.
Addiction Treatment With Couples Housing
Most rehab centers claim to accept couples into their treatment program. But they only have separate living facilities for male and female. We offer couples housing so you can live together in the same room. Couples Therapy with certified substance abuse counselors is offered weekly. We accept married and boyfriend girlfriend relationships. Clients in treatment programs are going to hook up and have sex, it is not avoidable anywhere.
Getting off heroin and other drugs is hard enough on its own, but in my experience couples have a hard time staying clean after completing addiction treatment programs, especially if one person relapses usually the other ends up using heroin again also. There is a stigma attached to rehabs that accept couples, mostly because AA recommends no relationships for at least a year. Once one half of the addicted couple decides to detox from heroin, we hope the other half will follow. After a 5 to 7 day detoxification center, the next step is couples rehab at a PHP for 30 days. Hopefully a treatment facility with therapists who believe in couples therapy for addiction. Once released from residential rehab, the next step is a sober living environment that caters to couples. A reputable halfway house will do random drug testing, and have 24/7 staff to monitor residents for a few weeks while they get settled and find meetings to attend.
Suboxone maintenance prevents relapse in early recovery. Medically assisted treatment is growing in popularity among the recovery community. Despite the prevailing opinions of AA and NA, the field must come to accept this fact. The government is pushing for suboxone maintenance programs, which are especially helpful to couples in early recovery. Getting clean and sober is hard enough if you are single. Being in a relationship the first year adds many triggers for addict. We need more PHP and IOP programs that allow subutex at small doses. Health insurance carriers are starting to require patients who are chronic relapsers to go on sub maintenance. “I have tried getting clean multiple times together with my significant other. We relapse within 3 days after leaving detox.This time we went to a program that offers suboxone maintenance and we have not used heroin in 90 days. My parents are so happy that finally i am able to start fresh.” C. T.
One of our success stories is Julia and Max, a married couple who had been using together for 14 years. They decided to get clean together. Most rehabs that they called do not accept couples, and finally they called our treatment center where they found practically everything they were looking for. In the first 2 phases living arrangements for couples is decided on a case by case basis for housing. In phase 3 their therapist recommended them for couples housing where they lived together and attended rehab daily. Max’s drug of choice was heroin and opiates and Julia’s drug of choice was Xanax. Both Max and Julia made their own separate supports and friends in the program. They still attend aftercare at our addiction treatment facility once a week and both are clean and sober today. Max had a small relapse a few months ago, but came right back to AA. The odds are not great for couples in recovery but it is possible.
There are a few sober living facilities that accept couples and let them live in the same room. I have checked 2 of them in person so i can recommend to any couples leaving rehab needing a halfway house together.
Generally speaking, the couple should not have the same sponsor in AA. This could make your significant other envious of your relationship with a sponsor. I would recommend both partners choose different friends and relationships in the program, and do not attend the same meetings that your significant other is attending. Seek out a therapist who specializes in the challenges a couple will face in recovery. Your family may not be happy with the situation. Be supportive of your partner if his family is angry about both of you remaining a couple in recovery.
Being partners in recovery is not easy. Resentments against your significant other can build up and cause one partner to relapse. Use relationship and marriage therapy to talk about these resentments with a counselor. Remaining a couple while in treatment can add extra issues to resolve in a treatment program. Each partner should have their own therapist to discuss issues regarding your significant other or your family history.
Group therapy is a large part of your treatment in most programs. A couple should not be in group therapy together. You need to feel free to discuss topics problems in your relationship without fear of hurting your partner. Sometimes group can become confrontational at times, especially when a couple is being judged by other clients. Treatment centers that specialize in marriage counseling, and relationship issues in recovery, can be very supportive. If you met your significant other during your addiction, don’t be surprised if feelings change during treatment.
Protocols and methods used in couples rehabs and counseling include:
- BCT (Behavioral Couples Therapy). This protocol is developed to assist couples with addiction issues using techniques to help modify behavior. Both partners are asked to create a “recovery contract” requiring each to promise not to use opiates, or drink alcohol one day at a time. Your significant other promises to support you in recovery, While enrolled in BCT, the couple will have sessions with their certified therapist weekly. There are group sessions with other couples with a counselor to facilitate them.
- ABCT (Alcohol Behavioral Couples Terapy). Specific protocols for alcohol addiction are put in place to help couples modify behavior. It is similar to BCT, but uses different methodology to promote abstinence and provide for a healthy relationship and marriage without drinking. This protocol is done in both residential and outpatient therapy. ABCT helps promote better communication between partners and teached problem solving skills to use in recovery
- RCA(Recovering Couples Anonymous). Most rehab centers bring patients to outside 12 step meetings including AA and NA. Some meetings are brought into the facility by the institutions group. RCA is a 12 step group for couples recovering from all forms of substance abuse. It is recommended to find a sponsor and continue attending after completion of residential treatment. Attending RCA meetings should be in the recovery contract the couple created while in treatment. Each partner should also have their own 12 step meetings to attend without your significant other, to build a solid foundation for individual recovery.
Couples Sober Living
After completing residential treatment, couples who wish to stay together will step down to transitional housing. Most sober living programs require some type of outpatient therapy. For married couples this could include family therapy or conflict resolution education classes. Attendance at 12 step meetings is mandatory at least 4 days per week. Both partners should seek employment either full time or part time. Working on the 12 steps with a sponsor is very important while in early recovery. Doing this while in a supportive sober living environment is helpful. read more
Frequently Asked Questions:
1.Can I sleep with my girlfriend while we are in detox?
No, but you can hang out together on the couch until lights out at 3 am. Then you both sleep in your own room.
2.Can my husband and I bring our anxiety medication to treatment?
Yes, but medication must be approved by the doctor and will be locked up in the safe.
3.Will I have the same therapist as my wife?
Each partner in a relationship should have their own primary therapist to discuss personal issues and fears with. You will attend separate group sessions so you can feel safe talking about you husband or wife without being uncomfortable.
4.My boyfriend is allergic to suboxone, can he take subutex for detox from heroin?
Yes we offer alternative medications including buprenorphine and tramadol for any patient who cant take naloxone.
5.How long is the taper for opiates?
Usually 7 to 10 days depending on how much heroin was being used every day.
6.Why do you allow relationships in rehab, when most treatment centers do not?
We believe in meeting the clients where they are today. If there are children involved, a marriage deserves a chance to be saved.
If you just met your boyfriend or girlfriend in rehab and are basically using buddies who have sex, we know if you manage to stay clean for a few weeks, both of you will realize you are not in love. then you can start working on your own recovery.
7. Do we get medicated as soon as we arrive at the detox center.
Yes, we do not make you wait for 2 days being sick with withdrawal symptoms.
Our Experience In Drug Rehab Together
” In March of 2017 My husband and I decided to get clean and sober for our kids. We called a variety of drug rehab centers and inquired about rooming together at the facility. Most of the rehabs would not accept a husband and wife in the same room while attending drug rehab. Finally we found a center to accept us, and we have been clean now for 60 days. The chronic relapse program allows us to be on medications including suboxone to control cravings and ativan for anxiety. This is one of the only drug rehabs that allows long term use of these medications to control addiction, This is not a protocol for first timers, it is designed for those heroin addicts who have been to multiple drug rehab centers , and fail to stay clean for 90 days or more. The chronic relapse drug rehab program here, educates and provides specific tools for heroin addicts to use out in the real world. We are still on our medication and we attend 12 step support groups.” Courtney F. ,Rhode Island
We provide transportation to AA/NA meetings in the community